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"In general, whoever says it first is in a vulnerable position," explains Golden. I think trusting your gut means examining it, and then acting it.
The friend whose house we were at came over to me and said “Hey, go flirt with Tim. We had great conversation and shared appetizers, entrees and on a whim he purchased a $100 half bottle of dessert wine (I later found out that he got paid that day so he was trying to impress me). After dinner we decided to drive up to Lake Tahoe and go for a swim under the moon. After our dip in our underwear, we sat on the shore and saw several shooting stars in a matter of minutes while drying off. We drove back to Reno, went to another bar that was close to my house and had a couple more drinks. After I was finished moving I called him and he was grabbing a beer with a friend so I met up with him. He wanted me to use the “wedding money” for a down payment on a house, an extended honeymoon, or for starting my own business. He just didn’t see the value in having a big, expensive wedding. Since my dad passed away, I wouldn’t really have the means to pay for a big wedding anyways. We were looking longingly into each other’s eye, warbling, whispering sweet nothings, and swapping saliva. They hope that getting married will somehow salvage their broken relationship. Why not make the honeymoon phase the foundation for our marriage? The coolest thing about our marriage is that it still feels like we are in the honeymoon phase.
He’s single right now.”I said, “I’m not single...” And my friend said, “Yeah, but your man is 6,000 miles away, and all you do is fight.” Or something along those lines…So I walked up to him and introduced myself. I remember him being handsome and polite…But that’s about it. I was single and going on way too many Tinder dates. Around 3AM he walked me home and kissed me goodnight. We got dinner, walked around downtown, then he showed me his place. And having grown up in Reno, an elopement wasn’t out of the ordinary. And it wasn’t something I was willing to put myself and my future husband into debt over. Our friend said “Will you guys just get married already? It isn’t about how long you’ve been together, it’s about the foundation you’ve built together, right? My dad remarried very quickly after my parent’s second divorce, and then passed away when I was 17. I think that is because of the precedent that we have set for our relationship early on. [Mostly because we are both stubborn assholes.] I promised myself a long time ago that I would get married once and only once.
This isn’t a blog post telling you that the way I married my significant other is superior to the way you did. Our story is not what most would consider normal in today’s day and age. Each guy I have dated has been very different from the last.
It’s just that…some stories are more culturally accepted as normal.
Saying "I love you" to my family is super normal for me; saying "I love you" to a gentleman caller is not. )As one who is admittedly unqualified to determine if a month is an appropriate amount of time to date before saying "I love you," I instead spoke to dating and relationship expert Meredith Golden to gather her opinion on the matter Here's what she said: This is a great point. "That's long enough to fall in love and to verbally express it." So basically, if you've done a relationship "Whole 30" for the month, just do it. My unsolicited opinion is that if you have 30 days in a row to spend with your new boo, maybe there are other parts of your life that are lacking?
(What can I say, that's just effed-up hand of cards my life experience has dealt me.) For others, saying "I love you" in a relationship is totally normal, while familial stuff is a bit more complicated. You can be "dating" someone for a month, but with your busy schedules, maybe you've only seen each other once a week. But love is love, and stranger things have happened, so the 30-day rule seems like a good one.
This should be a no-pressure time to get to know one another.
Keep your date from getting overwhelmed — and guard your own heart — by taking things slow. In the meantime, just keep things at “like” and reassure your date that you’re interested in moving forward. It can come across as too eager — or worse, desperate.
(I'm having anxiety just imagining doing this, but I'm proud of you.)Yeah, yeah, yeah... On the other hand, if you're a scaredy cat like me, examine your fear around saying "I love you.""Ultimately, you know when it feels right," says Golden.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating