Tween dating

Many tweens or teens work in cahoots with each other, saying that they are staying at a friend's house, while actually spending the night with a boyfriend or girlfriend at an unsupervised location.

If you really like the boyfriend or girlfriend, let the kids know it — take them out to dinner or to the movies with you, praise the way that they treat each other and are respectful of feelings, and also show that you know when to back off and give the couple some privacy and time to themselves. If you have reason to believe that the relationship has gone too far (the kids are experimenting sexually, for instance), you must step in.

First, talk with your child alone, and discuss the reasons for refraining from sexual activity (emotionally she may not be ready, it often ruins the relationship or reputation, the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy).

Being “single” at the ripe old age of 15 can be seen as abnormal by many kids, especially those who hang out with peers in the fast lane and aspire to be, act and look like the celebs on MTV.

Although tween and teen romance is normal, it’s not without some pretty heavy ups and downs.

and loveisespect.org, The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, tweens involved in relationships with the opposite sex experience significant rates of dating abuse and violence.

For the purposes of this study, the following groups were defined as follows: Tweens - adolescents age 11-14Teens - adolecents age 15-18Parents - adults with a child age 11-14The survey revealed the following about tween dating violence and abuse: Tweens who have been in a relationship report peer pressure and emotional and physical abuse.

And if your child winds up being the “dumped” and not the “dumpee,” I’ve found that distraction often works best in these situations — send your daughter flowers from Mom and Dad.

Even though it may not hold the same significance as a bouquet from the heathen who just broke up with your lovely daughter, it will help to smooth over hurt feelings to some extent.

He’s so cute and would look great in that red polo shirt, but, you know, he’s really into music also. Somehow you’ve just been placed in the middle of the whole mess! In fact, many of our grandparents were married quite young and began their own families in their latter teenage years.

But nowadays it seems like even little kids are having crushes on both peers and celebrities, and tweens and teens are more actively engaged in the “hunt” for a partner.

Hopefully, your child’s romance is successful and fun.

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